By Admin at 20 Dec 2016, 16:40 PM

The holidays bring extra stress even under ordinary circumstances, but for people undergoing treatment for cancer, the holidays may be a significant source of anxiety.

The pressure to try and “do it all” while at the same time keeping up with doctor’s visits, medical treatments and self-care can turn what should be a time for family get-togethers and traditions into one of non-stop tension and worry. During this time of year, it’s important to prioritize, take a step back and focus on the things that truly matter most.

For starters, consider scaling back your obligations. If you traditionally host the holiday, ask a friend or relative to do so instead, or switch your traditional meal to a potluck so you don’t have the pressure of cooking. You could also eat out or ask friends and family to cook a holiday meal in your home.

When those around you offer to help, graciously accept! It makes those around you feel good to lend a hand, and you should feel free to ask for specific help that you actually need, like making a trip to the grocery store, putting up your Christmas tree or wrapping presents.

You can cut down on a lot of hassle and running around by doing your holiday shopping online and sending cards electronically (or not at all). Perhaps most important of all, remember to pace yourself, know and respect your limitations and take time for yourself.

You should absolutely take time for rest, exercise and “me time.” If you feel overwhelmed, remember that the simple things, like focusing on your relationship with family and friends, matter most, and it’s OK to do less this year. It’s also OK to share your emotions with those around you. Cry if you feel like it, rest if you’re fatigued and if you feel depressed or very anxious, talk with a professional counselor.

Caregivers, family and friends of those with cancer can also help to make the holiday less stressful and more joyful. Offer to hang holiday decorations, shop for or wrap gifts or host the holiday in your home. You can also help with meals (in the weeks leading up to the holiday) or offer to help with childcare.

Perhaps most important of all, be there to listen to and support your loved one with cancer. Follow his or her lead on how you can best help and be understanding if holiday plans change at the last minute. Ask if there are any traditions that you can help carry out and remember to make time to spend together.

Loretta Muss, coordinator of the Patient and Family Advisory Council at the Patient and Family Resource Center staff at the N.C. Cancer Hospital and UNC Lineberger Comprehensive Cancer Center, further told Medical Xpress that sometimes the best thing you can do is have a meaningful conversation.

"Sometimes the hardest thing to do is to have a simple conversation, but asking someone who is experiencing a serious illness about what holiday traditions they cherish is a great way to focus on what matters most to them — and it reduces a family's stress of trying to do it all."

Source
Medical Xpress December 6, 2016

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